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[quote=Anonymous]My DH’s parents punish us all the time because we are frugal.  We are 2 government workers who, until DOGE, were doing ok.  My SIL is also a government worker, but she chose to follow a man to a different state where the cost of living is way lower and so are government salaries.  (FWIW, we live in NOVA and she lives in a place where a very nice 3 bedroom townhouse rents for $680/mo.)

Not only has she had every major purchase for her child (laptops, iPads, everything) paid for, she has been given 2 new cars since college, was the only one of 3 siblings to have everything fully paid for college, and just recently we were told that she is the only 1 of 3 who will inherit any money.

Because she’s “poor.”

I cut my own hair, don’t wear makeup, don’t eat out, and we drove just 1 car for over a decade, even after kids.  She spends all her money on her hobbies and clothes and ordering Door Dash multiple times a week.  We have owned a house for a decade and she still rents.  And we travel every summer, because I scrimp and save for it.

But the fact that we travel and we own a house (as does DH’s brother) is why we were told DH and brother don’t need to be in the will but she does, so maybe she could use the money to buy a house.

DH and his brother will never speak to her again when their parents die; that’s how corrosive this favoritism has been for all these years.

If you want your kids to hate each other someday, OP, keep it up.[/quote]

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