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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, they don't owe you anything. They don't owe you understanding.

You are 3 adults. When in a room trying to get along. How would you act around an ordinary, non-family, other adult? You/they would want the atmosphere to be pleasant. If they insulted you/hurt your feelings -- you'd excuse yourself. You might, in the moment, say something.

But for everyone, if the experience is not pleasant, you'd see less of each other.

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Agreeed, and the 3adults,  do they gush about how much they love you on and on and on? Do they make you feel like maybe they do love you and care about you but it’s all fake? Do you like fake friends like that? Or do you prefer to have sincere friendship? [/quote]

Huh? That is ... not what friends do. You can't dump negativity on friends and expect them to play therapist. Friends do, in fact, keep interactions positive and happy. Yes, friends should be there for you when going through a rough time, but it can't be a rough time forever and this should only be limited to best friends.

The only person you should be able to expect this unconditional support from is your spouse. [/quote]

Hah, so you agree with me then? I never said I dump negativity on parents or friends, if anything, I’m the opposite, suppress too much.  Friends keep things positive and happy doesn’t mean they run away when one is having hardships.  A friend in need is a friend indeed? And no, my parents are definitely not my friends.  Some friends seem to have a friendship with their parents and that’s admirable, that means their parents see them as equal human beings. [/quote]

Suppress too much? What is going on in your life that you have to emote so much all of the time? What exactly are you suppressing? You sound young, single and childless. How rough is your life?[/quote]

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