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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not everyone wants the career or the great job. Some just wnat to be a wife and a mom. They are just working the job until they get what they really want. They aren't giving up to center the man, they are giving it up because they never wanted a career and wanted their role in life to be wife and mom.

The women I know who thrive on being wife / mom also have traditional gender role views where they want a man who looks after them financially and who supports them in life and in being a wife / mom, and who protects them and is their rock.

That is the life they want. They are doing the role they want and have a man who is also in the role they want.[/quote]

My adoptive mother always said she was not a feminist, she had her identity in being a wife and mom. The problem is, she is better at being a wife than a mom. Once her kids grew past young childhood, her skills and EQ were not much help to us. In adulthood, I am estranged from my family and my brother is an entitled codependent mess, though she denies this and inserts herself into his life (and his second wife’s). She has alienated a lot of people and even though she is very (some might say over-)involved in her church, it seems like it’s just because their numbers and dwindling and she is willing to do the work. I don’t think she is very much liked.

If you put your man front and center and he’s a jerk, it rubs off on you. [/quote]

It sounds like your mother just isn't a very nice or likeable person and the outcome in terms of who she is and how she acts would probably be the same whether she worked or not. Men and women can be likeable or unlikeable people, can be good or bad mothers / fathers etc due to their personality, priorities, choices etc.  I don't think your mother was a jerk because of centering a man, she was just a jerk herself as a person. With her personality, she probably would have been just as bad at a job and at getting along with people in the workplace as she was at being a SAHM. [/quote]

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