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[quote=Anonymous]Getting an adult child to move out after experiencing independence can be very difficult even if they have a plan, plans have a way of falling apart.
Also consider how much her moving back home will cost you financially. I know a couple who want to downsize but their daughter moved home after a divorce with 2 toddlers. They are both now in jr. high and still live with them. They have since retired and are on a fixed income and the daughter can't keep a job. 
I know parents who have had to get second jobs or take out a second mortgage because their otherwise able bodied adult child(ren) either don't want to leave or keep coming back and their bills shot up as a result.

Also, how secure is her job? I have a co-worker whose 30 something year old son suddenly wanted to move back home. He also had a girlfriend who the parents had never met, but spent a lot of time at his place when he lived alone. He had a pricey apartment somewhere in DC. The parents said she had to limit her visits. The son and gf they both had the nerve to be irritated! Turns out his job had put him on a pip. A couple months after moving back home home he was fired. The gf broke up with him because he no longer had money, but they eventually reconciled and they still get into arguments with his parents about when she can visit. He gave up his car because the parents were not going to make the payments for him so now he has to borrow one of theirs and he wants a dog. They had one when he was little who passed away years before and decided that the time and work and emotion was not worth getting another one. It's been 2 years and he has no job because he refuses to take a pay cut or have a commute longer than a certain distance or the office is too stodgy or refused to answer to someone younger or too old. All kinds of excuses. He was certain his old job was going to ask him back because he thought he was essential but nope.

His bil is a psychiatrist and has counseled him and said he couldn't spot any mental or emotional issues. He's entitled and enabled as all get out.  [/quote]

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