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[quote=Anonymous]Mine did exactly the same thing. Ran out the door with a few vague words last September. Informed me he was buying a house four days later. Moved into that house in October. Came over to pack up "some" of his stuff with a few friends. Had a tantrum about how I didn't understand how difficult it was for him and how it was horrible when I returned back to my own home before he and his friends had gone. Then I got proof he was having an affair.

I'd check in every so often asking when he was getting his stuff. He'd make excuses and whine about his stressful life. I just wanted it gone so I packed it up and moved it to the garage. He said he had nowhere to store it. Mind you, he has a 3,000 sq. ft. house, and a 3,000 sq. ft. vacation home, and he rents two garages in his alley. And he has a basement. But sure sure, he had no room for like five boxes of things.

Eventually I stopped caring. He texted me last week to ask if his stuff was still in the garage. I said, "No magic elves have moved it." He came and got it. 14 months after he moved into his own home.

Sure, I can come up with a few theories about his psychology, and I'll share them below. But really OP, the point is that it doesn't matter why the dysfunctional man baby is a dysfunctional man baby. Your energy is just better spent dealing with the reality of his dysfunction rather than psychoanalyzing it.

Probably causes:
*Conflict avoidance (dealing with moving out of my house forces him to face his affair and the shame he feels)
*Entitlement (he is busy! and important! and I am just some non-entity who must be happy to store his stuff forever)
*Control (he maintains a reason to stay connected, as he didn't really process the end of the marriage and likes to get teary with me over how bittersweet it is)
*Laziness (he can't buy our children groceries, so let's not expect adult functioning from this man)[/quote]

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