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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Agree there may be consequences to his band grade, which is ridiculous.

I would email and include his guidance counselor, both teachers and maybe even an administrator to lay out the situation and ask them what they think the solution is.

I HATE HATE HATE these situations where the staff of the school tells you one thing (in tough, non-negotiable terms) and they talk a big talk about how you should prioritize THEM over your other responsibilities. No empathy that the other teacher is saying the same thing.

Get it out there. Make them say it to each others' faces.[/quote]

The child is a freshman. Long road ahead if this is this upsetting. Do miss the class. Do show up for band. There is a need to learn resilience and that the world will not crumble if you get one C during the term.[/quote]

It's not about getting one C. It's a challenging class. It's hard to make up the work. It's stressful missing that lesson and he shouldn't have to miss it because another class will give him a bad grade if he doesn't miss it. That is absolutely asinine. [/quote]
So what did the teacher say when he spoke with him to see what options are available so he doesn't fall behind?  Has he even tried to solve the problem?  Or is he being a wuss and not talking to the responsible adults.[/quote]

Stop calling a 14 year old boy a wuss, you POS
He thinks going to the class is the right thing to do, so he's doing that. He is not weak. You may think he's misguided or whatever but there is no reason to call him a name.[/quote]
He's planning to ghost his band because he's too scared to speak to a teacher.  That's not okay.  He needs to show more maturity.  [/quote]

And his mother thinks this is ok. The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.[/quote]

Yup, this is the parents' job to teach him this is not okay. My DS is in orchestra and he misses probably a combined 4 days of school/classes per year for concerts. The kids get summative grades for all of the concerts so if he just did not show up because he was unwilling to miss another class, that would lower his orchestra grade for sure. They also have optional trips that you can miss but school day concerts are mandatory.

DS also has an extracurricular that requires him to sometimes miss the last class or two of the day a few times per year. He hates to miss classes but I think it is important to be well rounded, too. [/quote]

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