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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I fault any school that resorts to in-school suspension for a kindergartener. Shame on them. [/quote]
I'm sorry, OP!! I agree. This kid is 5 or 6..Two suspensions seems over the top to me, too.[/quote]

If the child is leaving the classroom and having tantrums, then the classroom is not the right space for her. She needs a different placement.

Remember, Teachers are not allowed to physically restrain a child or prevent a child from leaving the classroom. The Teacher can send an aide with the child or call the front office to let them know that the child left the office. The school then needs to find a place for the child and that might not be in the classroom which clearly overwhelmed the child enough that they left it.

That is why there needs to be a formal evaluation. The parents have a way to ask for that, they need to email the school and request an evaluation, that puts the school on the clock. The parents are aware that there are issues because they are already working with a therapist. They could have requested an evaluation before school started so that there was an IEP in place before kindergarten started, but they didn't.

Mom has said that she is being treated for a mental health condition and is aware that these things can be passed on. The child was in therapy for behaviors before K started. I have no clue why the parents did not start the IEP process early on or that they have not started them now. I don't think that the school can start the process without gathering enough data to do so, they have to have the parents consent or the data to back up evaluation without the parents consent. It sounds to me like that is what the school is doing. They are telling parents there are issues. They are documenting the issues. They are looking for an environment to de-escalate the problems when they happen, removing the child from the classroom.

The parents' response is to be upset that the child has been pulled from the class after eloping and meltdowns but has not called for a conference to discuss the issue or request an evaluation. That is on the parents. [/quote]

It [b]is literally not on the parents to initiate the IEP process. It is supposed to be the school that does it proactively. Also, I have never understood why schools [/b]don’t put into place basic behavioral modification techniques as soon as a child’s behavior becomes disruptive. They are pretty simple but schools like to just ignore the solutions and seem to think that making alarmed calls to parents is going to solve the in-school issue. [/quote]

This is false. Schools hate and will do everything to avoid them . They are not your friend when it comes to getting and IEP and will usually fight them. It us the parents who need to get the psych evaluation testing done - which is what I think the school is trying to tell  the parents here - that their kid needs help - but the mother isn’t getting the message and wants to complain about the school. I, too, see hints of Selective Mutusm, which must be caught early for treatment. The burden is on the parents to get testing done. Their pediatrician can make recommendations. Often the school has a list too. You the. Have the testing done, learn about the issues the child may have and what the tester recommends - the. You go back to the school and say “Larla needs a 504 or an IEP, here’s why”. Then the school sets up a meeting at which it will deny or give the lesser of the options (the 504). That’s why at that meeting you bring in your big guns. For our DD, we brought in her therapist, the tester, the pediatrician eval, and her tutor. Langley didn’t want to give an IEP - the school board overruled and we got it.

A few publics will offer their own testing but it is never as thorough as the multi-day neuropsych and often administered by new college grads who don’t know what they are doing or what they are seeing in the child’s because they are too inexperienced . You should always go to an outside professional tester if you can afford it.
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That's a pretty harsh--and inaccurate--assessment of how educators view their roles.  Teachers don't want kids with massive special needs who aren't receiving appropriate supports.   Are they going to gift this kid a 1:1 aide?  Probably not, because that's cost prohibitive, even with the kid eloping, which is dangerous.  But at the very least, if the OP hasn't bothered to get her kid a diagnosis, they would start there and with a set of supports to address that diagnosis.

But since OP never bothered to explain what efforts she had made to get her child evaluated and the support they need, we'll never know.[/quote]

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