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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m sorry, OP. It sucks. The exact same thing happened to my DD and I never spoke to the other girl’s mother again (we had been friends as well). I actually disagree with the advice above about not maligning this girl. Our DD knows very well what we think of kids who do this and we are not reserved about expressing it. We talk about the importance of avoiding a-holes and finding friends who are nice, and we model that behavior. It helps give her confidence. [/quote]

How do you know this "avoiding a-holes" as you call it, isn't what's happening to this daughter?[/quote]

OP said the daughter had asked if the other girl had a problem with her. Even if the daughter did do something, ignoring her and leaving her out with no explanation really hurts… the other girl said she did NOT have any problem, so she’s being a real b by still leaving her out. [/quote]

Exactly! Op, your daughter is doing the mature thing. The other girl is being crazy immature. Don’t worry, your daughter will find new friends. (Don’t expect things to get better soon though)[/quote]

Sorry, full disagree. Your daughter may have been mature in asking. If the girl is interested in a friendship, she could be mature and be honest. If she’s not, why would she spend time having that conversation with your DD? Not even adults do that well with people they don’t want to continue friendships with. It’s not ideal, but it feels very awkward to directly hurt someone’s feelings like that. I’m not excusing the behavior. I’m just saying, if the girl doesn’t want to be friends, then this is the answer 90% of even adults would give. The rest of it, being rude, etc etc is not ok. Your daughter needs to branch out widely and make new friends. [/quote]

Hence why this post was probably made… OP wanted to know how to help her daughter get through this. It’s obvious the other girl does not want to be friends with OP’s daughter, and that can have a hard effect on someone especially when they have been friends since elementary and suddenly are getting left out with no explanation whatsoever. I don’t think some of these people get that this post was made to help OP’s daughter get through this hard time, and not to forcefully make the other girl friends with OP’s daughter. [/quote]

The solution is branch out and make new friends or find new interests. Nothing else will make her feel better because I’m sure it hurts a lot. [/quote]

+1[/quote]

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