Reply to Teen boys and portion sizes

Forum Index » Tweens and Teens

Reply to "Teen boys and portion sizes"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This OPs future daughter in law will probably be thr poster of a future epic dcum Thanksgiving post.

She is the younger version of the mil that won't feed anyone, cant believe you are still hungry  and makes you wait all day for food etc.  Her future daughter in law will be hiding food gift baskets in luggage so her kids dont starve .[/quote]

OP here,

This is interesting, because I'm a regular participant in those threads.  I grew up in a household where my mother put food on plates, and you could neither leave food unfinished, or ask for seconds.  Other than that, the kitchen was closed.  The portion size didn't change, and by middle and high school we were all starving.  She had a rule of not eating or drinking between meals, including water.  You would literally get in trouble if you messed up the kitchen by filling a glass of water and drinking, or took a cup to the bathroom so you could get a drink after you brushed your teeth.

So, I've got some hang ups about underfeeding my kids.  It's always been important to me that they can eat their fill, and that the food tastes good.

But this pattern of just choosing one food and wanting unlimited quantities of that food, is pushing my buttons.  It's expensive.  It isn't healthy.   And the accusation that I'm being unfair hurts me, because showing favoritism is another pattern from my family of origin that I try hard to avoid.  [/quote]

That is really messed up. No wonder you are trying to correct the horrible controlling environment you grew up in.

I still think you should take the feedback from your son and try to let him listen to his body, rather than you imposing control over the ratio of foods you think he should eat. He is old enough to have agency over this, and he’s not asking for unlimited donuts. Examine why it is pushing your buttons that he wants more meat. As an outside observer he just sounds like a hungry teen male athlete, not a manipulator. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics