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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Pro tip: rather than blowing up (which will make you look aggressive and crazy), it’s better to calmly say, “Dave, please drop it. You know I find this topic upsetting for obvious reasons, please just stop.”  
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I’ve been in op’s shoes.  This doesn’t work.  That’s seen as an invitation to keep talking.  [/quote]

It works for me.

If it continues, then you say something like:

“Geez, Dave. Enough already. I’ve politely asked you to drop it. Moving on.” Then talk to others snd ignore him.

You calmly paint him as the obnoxious aggressor. Bonus points if you can do it with a smile on your face in a humorous way at his expense.

“Dave, I love you, but I’m starting to worry that you might have had a stroke or suffered a brain injury.”

“I know you are eager to debate this, but I just don’t have the energy. So how about all of just agree that Dave is right about everything and then we can move on.”[/quote]

If someone wants to debate me, I’ll debate them. If they are rude about it, especially in my home, I won’t be nice about it. Stand up for yourself. It’s ok to verbally destroy an a-hole. If someone says something nasty about your child, you’re going to say they’re right about everything? No way.[/quote]

“Verbally destroy an a-hole” = make a fool of yourself [/quote]

I know some people are afraid of arguments. I’m not. If someone wants to argue, I’m in. I can’t imagine letting someone say something insulting about my kid in my home and giving him a pass.[/quote]

Such a false binary.

I don’t mind arguing, but I’ll avoid it when possible.

Here, OP could have just drawn a clear boundary. “I’m not interested in discussing this with you.”

Repeat until conversation ceases or, if the other person won’t stop, then escalate to asking them to leave.

What’s the point in arguing in this circumstance?[/quote]

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