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[quote=Anonymous]FOMO is real. 
-Player needs to want it more than you want it for them. 
-There is always someone better, always. 
-If college soccer is really what they want, find a club that will help
-There are very few clubs in this area who will help ALL kids, so unless your kid is at the very top of the talent pool and comes with accolades/recognition from MLSN/ECNL/GA there is a very small chance your player will displace anyone on that club with a great recruiting program after U15.
-Kids get better, some kids peak early, every kid plateaus. Don't assume that the player who was the end of the roster will always be there. Every year changes. 
-large rosters suck but are part of the deal the older they get. 
-Don't use the word "we" ever. "We" don't train, "We" don't play. "We" aren't playing in college. YOUR CHILD IS, NOT YOU. Practice early not using "WE" for anything related to soccer, it will help you remember it's not about you. 
-Soccer parents on the sidelines are not your friends, and it's ok. Be friendly, but as you get older, it's a business. The fun is gone during recruiting years. 
-no one will share their recruiting process while they are in it. Don't ask either. Ask advice from parents of older kids. 
-A coach can kill your kid's confidence. Move or teach them it's part of life having a bad boss. It's their choice. 
-Have your child know what to expect from club coaches at showcases such as playing time, position. If not, you and your child will be blindsided by coaches decisions. 
-College soccer landscape has changed so has the recruiting pace and type of players. Understand this early. D1 changing with transfer portal, roster caps, and international players. It's stressful. It's different than last year or or the year before that.
-youth soccer in NOVA sucks
-A GK who is talented and forward that scores are the most valuable players. Everyone else are fillers. 
-if your kid isn't touching a ball every day, training on their own, asking for more training by U13/U14. Be realistic where they fall on the team, playing time. 
-sometimes really driven kids with decent talent don't rise to the top. No amount of a drive can make up for athletic gifts who are just as driven. 
-what are they giving up at school to be a part of that elite team? Clubs, friendships, academics. social events, memories. 
-let them play high school soccer if they want. Club coaches control too much. 
-recruiting SUCKS more than NOVA youth soccer. Everybody lies, grown adults lie to your 16 year old, believe no one until you have papers to sign. Coaches need to keep their jobs and they will do whatever it takes Your kid is wanted until they aren't. 
-fitness has to be first and lifting weights is mandatory
-last piece of advice, have them play for fun. The journey can sour at the end and you wonder was it all worth it. [/quote]

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