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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I have to say I wonder about this, too-- my DH is from a country where two generations back people were having 8+ kids, and thanks to a hugely successful family planning campaign, nowadays all my in-laws talk about how HARD raising children is, and how two children is so trying they cannot believe I don't want someone to come help out. After I had #2 they asked when I planned to get my tubes tied!

I think certain things go along with limiting family size to one or two, and then become pervasive in the culture: the idea that children require more individualized attention, more parent-directed stimulation and activities, more family time; and also a certain letting go of very strict discipline that you really can't forgo if you are going to survive with a brood of kids. I think our high expectations of what we want to give our children vs. what we don't want to do when it comes to our children (and this varies, but gosh, do I feel like a lousy mother when I yell, and just consider the number of people who post about not taking a shower or going poop once they have a newborn because they don't want to let the baby to cry for 5 minutes) and our fears, despite all evidence about nature vs. nurture, of the effects our parenting has on our children's personalities and development make parenting even ONE child hard, personally.

Just my opinion.[/quote]

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