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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Both of my brothers regret the way their marriages ended and that they were not able to figure out a way to keep the marriage intact. They both have substance abuse issues and mental health problems.

Neither of their ex-wives regret their divorce and I know they are relieved to have gotten out of those marriages even with the co-parenting challenges it created. I don't think they can ever totally regret their marriages because they love their kids, who are great, but I'm certain they look back on red flags from early in those relationships and wish they'd done a better job of recognizing where things were headed.

I have empathy for all involved but mostly just wish my brothers didn't struggle with these demons. I don't blame my former SILs at all for choosing to get out of those marriages. I have mixed feelings about the impact on kids -- the divorces are hard on my nieces and nephews but also it would have been hard on them if there hadn't been divorce either. I hope the experience helps them know better what to do, and not to do, in their adult relationships. I especially hope they can break the cycles of substance issues and mental health problems, and I have faith that it's possible because I did it myself (happily married, two kids, no substance problems, very healthy mentally with help of therapists and supportive spouse).[/quote]

[b]People tend to marry their equal when it comes to emotional maturity[/b].

And society rewards some coping mechanisms and addictions over others. [/quote]

Strongly disagree with the bold. Many emotionally mature women end up compensating for emotionally immature men. It’s why they die younger without wives and have weaker social networks. [/quote]

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