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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My [b]DH has periods of getting really into the manosphere online, and it will lead to these kinds of arguments[/b].  It always kind of throws me because I’m just listening to music or chatting about my day, and I’m caught off guard that it leads to a fight.[/quote]
I’m so sorry, PP.  That’s a disaster in the making. My college age son texted the family group chat about something “funny” Andrew Tate had said online. He was surprised by the instant negative reaction DH and I had. We ended up having a series of good conversations about it, though I’m not sure it sunk in. These idiots are talented at getting their claws into vulnerable boys and men. [/quote]OPs story has nothing to do with the maosphere or Tate or men's rights anything. Why can't you just admit that the pink pony club is a song about being a stripper?[/quote]

Why can’t you just admit you’re a literalist and probably on the spectrum. [/quote]Alternative interpretation of OPs story: Her DH was upset that his wife was playing that song about being a stripper in front of their children because he doesn't want his kids to think its ok. So he criticized it. She realized she was wrong and got defensive. Then she runs to dcum to get validation. As expected, certain dcum posters started blaming men in general. [/quote]

If that’s how her H felt, then he needs to be an adult and express how he actually feels. Later on, when they have time to talk, he can say “hey babe, I know you really like that song, it’s a good song, but I feel uncomfortable with it being played around the kids. I understand it’s about a gay bar but it can be interpreted as stripping and I’m afraid the kids will think it’s the green light to do sex work. Can we find a compromise where it’s not played around the kids?”

The passive-aggressive, picking a fight over the meaning of the song is not how adults communicate and just leads to anger and resentment rather than solutions. Better to be solution-oriented rather than have emotional outbursts.[/quote]

Amazing read/post (sincerely). Spot on.[/quote]

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