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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP Here - She turned 13 early this month and was starting junior high (7th grade) so we decided to get her a phone. She only has an hour and a half of phone time per day and isn’t allowed to have it in her bedroom at night. We also monitor her apps, texts, etc. Locking her phone down at school instead of not allowing her to take it to school is something we will be doing now.

She behaves normally at home most times she just has issues with impulsivity that mainly affect her at school that we are currently working on. [b]The policy of giving ISS for first time phone use isn’t clear which is why DH really wanted to contest it.[/b] We went to the school yesterday and had a talk to the main principal about it who was very understanding and thought the suspension was too severe and DD does have an IEP so they want to review everything and have another meeting to determine if she will have to serve the suspension. She won’t have any screens (Phone or iPad) for at least 3 weeks and DH still wants to give her another consequence.[/quote]

That isn't what the ISS was for though. I'm surprised the principal was in agreement with you on this. The ISS was for insubordination, NOT using the phone in class. The only punishment for using the phone in class was (supposed to be) handing it over for the rest of the day. Our FCPS MS and HS both have that rule. [/quote]

The principal doesn't want a complaint filed that a kid with an IEP was suspended when the reason for suspension could be potentially tied to their disability. The daughter is likely to get away with more in school because the parents complained and now there will be additional meetings with the IEP team to review the incident and there is the possibility of a behavior plan needing to be created and followed. Mom and Dad successfully deterred future behavior corrections by making more work for the staff. Yeah them.

The suspension wasn't for the phone; it was for refusing to turn the phone over to the VP. I doubt that the VP jumped from a first refusal to a suspension and that there was more that happened there. If that is the case, then I would agree that suspension was a bit much and give a detention or two. If the kid continued to refuse and their behavior was bad enough that the VP refused to allow the kid to return to class, then I can see a suspension. The rules for suspending a kid with an IEP are different because there are procedures to do so.

But yeah, this kid is going to get away with what she wants because her parents don't want to see that they need to minimize distractions to decrease the likelihood of poor behavior. She is going to get the phone back and this is going to repeat.

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