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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP Here - She turned 13 early this month and was starting junior high (7th grade) so we decided to get her a phone. She only has an hour and a half of phone time per day and isn’t allowed to have it in her bedroom at night. We also monitor her apps, texts, etc. Locking her phone down at school instead of not allowing her to take it to school is something we will be doing now.

She behaves normally at home most times she just has issues with impulsivity that mainly affect her at school that we are currently working on. The policy of giving ISS for first time phone use isn’t clear which is why DH really wanted to contest it. We went to the school yesterday and had a talk to the main principal about it who was very understanding and thought the suspension was too severe and DD does have an IEP so they want to review everything and have another meeting to determine if she will have to serve the suspension. She won’t have any screens (Phone or iPad) for at least 3 weeks and DH still wants to give her another consequence.[/quote]

OP: She is not ready for a phone. DS is 13 and in 8th grade and doesn't have a phone. He has not asked for one, we check with him every so often to see if this is causing social issues for him. About a 1/3 of his friends don't have phones. They are doing just fine. Turning 13 or going to MS does not have to equate to getting ap hone. It should be child dependent. Can your child handle using the phone responsibly? Can your child follow the rules?

The ADHD kids I know with phones cannot turn them off. We know lots of kids with phones, they went with the kids to Scout camp this summer. 95% of the kids were talking to peers and hanging out, using phones sparingly. 5% disappeared into their tent to use their phone or were using their phones at mealtime. It was not a surprise that the phone users were kids with ADHD. Phones are going to be a struggle for a developing brain and even more of a struggle for a developing brain with ADHD.

I don't understand why so many parents have this "They are in MS so they get a phone" mentality. I get that the kids want them, but the logic strikes me as flawed. You know your kid and you now have proof that she can't handle the phone. Take it away. Get her a cheap flip phone if you really think she needs something for calling you in an emergency.

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