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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP w/3 under 4 here responding to the PP honestly seeking advice.  It's not in any book.  Just determine the limits which work for your family and be very, very rigid about these.  
Some examples for our family include:
My children cannot cross a street or walk in a parking lot w/o holding hands.  If someone doesn't come when I ask them to, I pick them up and leave immediately.  [b]If you make a fuss about what's for dinner, the plate is removed but you must sit until others are finished and then ask to be excused, every time[/b].  There is absolutely no snacking w/o sitting down (at home or in public).  If you don't behave when we go somewhere, we don't go there again until you understand how we expect you to behave.  Clothes are laid out the night before and that's what you're expected to wear in the morning.  You respond when adults speak to you.  You greet people, say please, thank you and good bye.  You don't interrupt adults when they are speaking.  You say excuse me and then wait to be addressed. [b] You put all toys away before we leave the house and go to bed.  [/b]You are put back to bed if you get out.  You hug your brother or sister if you do something to hurt them.  You protect one another from others.  
The little ones follow what the 4 YO does so really you're working with one example to set.  My 2 YO is much more headstrong and stubborn than my 4 YO but even she wants the positive attention for good behavior.  With good behavior comes freedom and fun.  Bad behavior is punished immediately with time outs, staying indoors, toys removed, etc.  Kids are kids and they test limits constantly.  However we feel they need to know they are not in charge.  They are not equal members of the family in terms of decisions.  This way we can love and enjoy them and still function in society, both in and out of our home.[/quote]
Not to be dense, but how do you force a child to stay seated while you eat your own meal? I would have to tie her down or hold her myself. 
And how do you force clean up before bed or leaving the house?  My child is very happy to not clean up and stay home, or not clean up and delay bedtime. She is 3.4.[/quote]

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