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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My experience is similar to the OP. I didn't really gain any confidence until I left home. My parents have been very authoritarian. I watch my own young kids assert their opinions and preferences and think back to my own upbringing. The biggest difference is that in my parents' culture, respect only goes one way, up toward your elders, teachers, people in authority. Parents respecting their kids' personhood was unheard of. For example, I have a say in how my son's haircut should look like, but I would not force him to sport a style that he loathes. My mom had no such qualms and always insisted that the hairdresser cut it extremely short so I looked like a tomboy, even well into my teenage years. It's just one small example. [/quote]

I totally understand what OP is saying. I'm Indian-American and grew up here but related to what an Eastern European PP was saying. Parents don't view it as their job to pump you up and sort of self-actualize and develop socially and emotionally. They are more focused on correcting you and making you a little scared so you don't screw up

It has not served me well as an adult. It was not made for a great parent relationship as an adult. I am parenting differently. My kids' views matter too.[/quote]

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