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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are the people responding that women shouldn’t start having sex if they aren’t into it in long-term marriages?

I don’t think I ever have a genuine and enthusiastic burning desire for it until about 20 minutes in, and then I nearly always do.

One thing I will say is that if we are kissing and touching and I’m open to it, but I just can’t get turned on, then we just don’t have sex and DH is okay with that.  I think most men are okay with that though.  If 2-3 times a week you try to have sex, and it doesn’t work out sometimes, that’s fine.  I think the issue is that people aren’t kissing or touching at all, not that they are kissing and just can’t get in the mood.  [/quote]

I think the thing that probably did the most damage to our intimacy was my husband a few times getting frustrated/ upset that I never did get in the mood and eventually wanted to stop, primarily when our kids were very little and I was completely exhausted. He also got annoyed if i “wasn’t into it” enough. It basically made me only want to give it a try if I was pretty sure I would be able to make him happy. I expressed all this and I think he understands but it’s been really hard to get back to how I felt before a few pretty crappy interactions.[/quote]

Trying not to get too explicit here, but venturing into a little light domination may be one idea. Meaning - his job is to service you and his pleasure does not matter. Just a thought 😈[/quote]

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