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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are the people responding that women shouldn’t start having sex if they aren’t into it in long-term marriages?

I don’t think I ever have a genuine and enthusiastic burning desire for it until about 20 minutes in, and then I nearly always do.

One thing I will say is that if we are kissing and touching and I’m open to it, but I just can’t get turned on, then we just don’t have sex and DH is okay with that.  I think most men are okay with that though.  If 2-3 times a week you try to have sex, and it doesn’t work out sometimes, that’s fine.  I think the issue is that people aren’t kissing or touching at all, not that they are kissing and just can’t get in the mood.  [/quote]

After years of marriage, 15-20 min is all we need in total. I can't imagine going for an hour. [/quote]

You can’t imagine it?    [/quote]

Honestly no. He is in his 50s, and if he goes too long, he gets tired and loses his erection. We are both happy with the frequency and the length of every session. Perhaps you can pathologize someone else's sex life? [/quote]

I’m not trying to pathologize your sex life.  But I wouldn’t expect a man to maintain an erection for the entirety of a sexual encounter at any age, and definitely not at 50+.  Erections wax and wane.  It is very possible to get him hard again after he has spent some time focused on you.  
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Like I said, we are happy.  No need to further examine what we do.[/quote]

Okay.  You were the one who brought up that having sex for more than 20 minutes is beyond the limits of your imagination. 
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