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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It should all be equal![/quote]

My parents died when I was very young.  My mom's parents put money in a trust for me (money they gave to their other adult children and whatever inheritance).  My grandfather told me when time came it would be split and I would get an equal share as the children (my aunts and uncles).  My grandmother is still alive, so who knows what will happen.  This side of the family helped raise me and did a lot for me growing up.

My dad's side which was not as well-off and working class said the same thing. 
Then, my grandfather inherited a large 7 figure sum from his only living sibling who passed away.  
Their estate was meant to be divided in 3 when they passed, 1/3 to me, 1/3 to each of my uncles.  My grandmother on this side told me she did this because it's fair, but also because they did not help me or my mother financially (she died before my dad) at all.  She worried if she died first that her sons would try and cut me out of my inheritance.  Unfortunately, she died first and my uncles convinced my grandfather that they deserved the inheritance and I only deserved a very low 5 figure sum.  They walked away with millions.  I could have probably tried to sue, but for what?  I cut those uncles off. They haven't met my kids and when they send a birthday or Christmas text I ignore.

My issue was on my dad's side we all went to the attorney once my grandparents inherited that huge sum so everyone was on the same page about trusts and what each person was inheriting.  We also all attended when my grandmother had died (a year before my grandfather) so I know exactly how much money I was meant to inherit.

I did not act like I would see that money as both my grandparents were in expensive homes at the end and I acted (thankfully) like I would never see it.  I feel both my uncles probably lived like they would see it and then convinced my grandfather that they somehow deserved it more.  One of my uncles commented on my mom's side and how rich they are and that I did not need any inheritance.  I reminded him it was not my money and that it had nothing to do with what his parents, my grandparents, wanted to do with their money.  It isn't even about the money, but how it all went down.

People are awful when it comes to money.  Even if you are told and see documents you are inheriting X, live your life like you will inherit 0, because it can change instantly.  Luckily, I had a feeling it would, so I live life that way and have a beautiful life, but I refuse to let my kids anywhere near people who are that awful.

I had to recently explain to my son why he hasn't met my dad's two brothers.  I was honest in a kid-friendly way and also told him you can wish the best for people and not have them in your life.  Sometimes if people do real harm to you, it is ok to cut people off, but to wish them well, because negative wishes only bring negativity toward you.  Their loss.  
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