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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]This. I will not play mommy politics or get involved with moms who want to relive adolescent drama through their kids. A birthday party is a celebration. Include everyone, ignore the drama, and give kids a chance to get to know new people. [/quote]

I'm sorry, I don't agree.  For the past four years, we have had a giant party where we invited DS's entire class.  We can't afford to do it in our townhouse, so it cost us almost $400 to rent a room at a rec center, get food, plates, etc.  It was great to invite everyone, but it was horribly stressful and expensive for me, and I'm not doing it any more.  This year, we are going to just invite 4 or 5 of DS's best friends (there will be some boys and some girls) to our home for a small party.  I'll certainly stress to him not to talk about it in front of children we were not able to invite because it may hurt their feelings.  But we are under no obligation to provide a party for every child in the class.  It isn't "adolescent drama," it is a reasonable limit on the size of the party.[/quote]

This. Apparently if you have a kid with a winter birthday you either have to be rich so you can afford to rent space in this town or your kid doesn't get to have a birthday celebration with friends.  Are kids not allowed to have close friends anymore?  If you have a couple best friends you are a mean girl?  If you invite one for a play date then do you have to invite all the others?  I guess my daughter can never have a friend sleep over b/c I cannot accommodate all 14 girls in her class.  It is not these things that make you mean it's the behavior that accompanies them.  I'm sorry but you don't have to like and be friends with everyone.  You do have to be kind.

I have no idea whether OP is nice or not, whether her daughter is a mean girl or not.  If the daughter was telling everyone OP should address that, and if the uninvited girl is in the daughter's little circle of friends that's a problem. And there is certainly a diplomatic way to handle the mother who called (many of which have been suggested), but on the pure question of can a 10 year old girl have a birthday dinner with 3 or 4 friends, you people really believe the answer is no?  Invite everyone or no one (especially when "everyone" in this instance isn't even one class, apparently they rotate so it's several--like the whole grade)?  [/quote]

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