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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband and I have an almost 5-week-old. We had numerous discussions re expectations as a couple/parents, how our days would be structured, who assumes what responsibilities. It went well the first 3 weeks until my husband went back to work and decided he was too busy and threw our game plan out the window. It’s been a lot of complaining on his end when I ask him to do set things he agreed upon. Any extra responsibilities is met with sighs and annoyance. I’m over his attitude and lack of help.

I sat him down today and told him this is not how I want marriage to go and will strongly consider whether I want to stay in this marriage. I elaborated that he is not keeping promises or operating as a team or a loving supportive spouse. He got angry and told me I’m being irrational and that I’m spoiled and ungrateful. While it sucks we are here, I don’t feel my reasonings and feelings are irrational. Please offer some advice or help me see that maybe I’m being too harsh on him in this trying time.[/quote] FIVE WEEKS. Parenting doesn't come with an instruction manual. It's a lifelong process. Talk to your OB/GYN stat. Your hormones are still raging. Can you hire someone to help you a few hours a day?[/quote]

[b]well OP is able to parent the baby and keep up her end of the bargain. her DH, not so much. [/b]If he does not change then divorce is quite likely. OP should do it sooner rather than later (but maybe after the infant stage, around 3.) she could also take the approach of letting him hoist himself on his own petard and let him be absent for several years at all his “client dinners” - then she can get primary custody. [/quote]

Oh please, it's not like they're both on leave. She said when he was on leave it was fine. Now he's also working. When my husband went back to work after a month the first time I slept in the guest room so he could get an uninterrupted night's sleep. And I didn't expect him to walk inside and and immediately take over everything. I had actually had some downtime during the day because babies sleep a lot. We also didn't have stupid expectations about someone having to cook dinner every night. Laundry was mostly baby-related since it's not like I was wearing multiple outfits a day. There are a million ways to simplify things. [/quote]

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