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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Indian-American here.

Most people don't care if you marry a well-off, educated white person from a family with assets and are still married. Some people find divorce untasteful, but if the rest is there, they aren't going to care one bit about the divorce and will be supportive.

Every. Single. Indian. I know (and I am so many having grown up in a heavy Indian community) would lose their minds if their child married a black person. Indians are weirdly hateful toward black people.[/quote]

Yeah, that has changed quite a bit from years ago.   In reality, Indians want their doctor kids to marry other doctors/professionally successful people.  Indians meet their non-Indian spouses in either college/graduate school or work. I do know of a number of Indian doctors marrying Black doctors - and being supported from both sides of the families.

I think it is a SES thing rather than a race thing.   
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Nope. PP here. I've seen Indians disowned for marrying black attorneys, physicians, engineers. Didn't matter. There just isn't the whole well, he's a successful person or she's a brilliant surgeon thing I've seen with white people marrying into the Indian community.

There is just so much gossip and drama around this. I've known people who have married black people (yes successful) and yes, they have been derided by the aunties and rejected by families. It is VERY much a thing.[/quote]
Definitely a colorist perspective. They don't mind their kids marrying someone lighter, because their kids will be light skinned. But marrying someone darker is still looked down upon. Even within the desi community. [/quote]

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