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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m Gen X and it was normal for my teenage friends and I to date and have sex, but also to drive several hours and across state lines away by ourselves to go to a concert, smoke cigarettes in a restaurant, have a part time job after school that would allow you to buy your own car, etc. For many of us, our parents related to us like we were basically adults who happened to still live at home. Teenagers today are really closer to being kids in terms of the role they play in family and society, and they have many structural demands on their time. Which is why they don’t date.[/quote]

I disagree with this.. My kids have far more freedom than I ever had.  They have driven themselves from DC to NYC many times before age 18, they have travelled overseas by themselves on more than one occasion, they have gone to a myriad of concerts from age 14 and on (with no adult), they have had summer jobs for years. 
And yet, my daughter has not dated. 
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I think that’s pretty unusual though - the level of freedom. I also give my kids a lot of freedom and it doesn’t seem typical with her friends.

However I was like this too, and never dated. I was mature in some ways (responsibility) but socially immature in others like dating.

I think kids tend to do what their friends do. So if you are in a friend group where no one is dating, you don’t either. It does take a lot of effort to get past the “talking stage” as they say and if you are busy with other things and it’s not a focus of your peer group you probably won’t engage in it enough to date.[/quote]

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