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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I had a breast reduction/lift and a tummy tuck following weight loss.  The breast lift portion was easy-peasy, and they still look great  almost 20 years later.

I've also had lipo and some laser thing that promised to tighten the skin on my upper arms.  That was done under twilight.  It didn't accomplish anything.  In fact, the skin is saggier now actually.  I'm strongly considering getting a brachioplasty.

DH says he'd prefer I not do it, but of course he's gonna say that.  That's the only safe answer.  But I will feel a giant weight lifted off my mind and I will have a higher libido if I'm not self-conscious about my saggy, stretched-out arm skin.

Some people don't care what they look like.  Others, like me and you, do.  (And, frankly, our spouses benefit from that.)  Do what will make you feel good, and don't waste a second self-flagellating for being "vain."  The breast lift is a simple, routine procedure and will give you lifelong benefits.  (The other stuff you mentioned I'm not sure will do much, so maybe do a bit more research on those.)

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Prime example. Start out with some surgery. Then more. Then more. Then it doesn’t work, so you need MORE surgery.

What kind of message does this send our children? You tell them to love themselves, they are perfect as is, but then see you go do a million surgeries to change very basic things about your looks. We want to tout self esteem and self love when clearly you have none. How can you raise kids being such a hypocrite?[/quote]

Get back to me after you've lost 170 pounds.  [/quote]

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