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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here's my $0.02 on this situation.

[b]1) Crazy sleeping hours need to change.  While I realize that they may have kept those hours when at school, it should no longer fly or not be an everyday thing. 
2) Need to do the PT.  It's been assigned for a reason.  
3) Help around the house, unpaid as others have stated.  Give him a list to do.  Empty DW, change laundry, vacuum.  [/b]

My DS, same age, had a really crappy end to his freshman year that resulted in a ton of angst and anxiety for us a parents.  He came home from school in a pretty crappy place and was not himself.

He luckily has continued to work at his HS job over breaks and is back again there this summer.  Shift starts as early as 6:30 AM.  That routine and his HS buddies coming back in town have really helped to him on the right side of things.   He also is going to take a Gen Ed class at the local CC.

Good Luck! [/quote]

+ 1 on the bolded.
The crazy sleeping hours are disrespectful to the people in the house working and making it possible for him to go to college.
Unless he is paying his own health insurance and costs, PT is not optional.
And an adult living at home should contribute to the running of the household.
Beyond that, he should come up with a plan of how to spend his summer constructively.  His spending money is his problem, you can stay out of that.  But you presumably have invested a large amount of money in tuition, so I think it's fair to ask that he have something to show for the summer. Volunteer, class, casual work, some other kind of project.[/quote]

What is disrespectful about sleeping later? You sound insane [/quote]

Not PP, but to me sleeping late, especially every day, is disrespectful to the other adults in the household who are working to pay his tuition and who, when not working, need to get household tasks done. All while the college age adult sleeps. That would never fly in my house.

He needs to participate in the household as a contributing adult. [/quote]

He is recovering from mono. [/quote]

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