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[quote=Anonymous]It can be hard to feel like you don't fit in. I get that. But also OP doesn't sound like they are trying to fit in.

If you want to fit in with people who have less money than you, it's really not that hard. Just do the things the people with less money do. The end. You can still do things that cost more on your own, but prioritize spending time with other families and do the stuff they can afford. So if they like to take their kids to the local park on the weekend to run around, do that. You will get to know them and your kids will play together and it's fine. You can still take your summer vacation in Italy while they go to the Jersey shore. But when you are together you need to do things everyone can do.

What people like OP will do is they will always want to do an expensive activity other people can't afford, and then they'll be annoyed that people won't join them. So they'll suggest going to a trampoline park with a $30/kid entrance fee. Or taking the kids to the movies at $15/each plus popcorn and drinks. Or going to an MLB game. And on and on. And they want to do activities like that EVERY weekend, not as a special treat every once in a while. Well, the other families can't do that, so they will avoid you, because they don't want to be reminded over and over that they cannot afford to do that stuff, and they especially don't want their kids feeling constantly deprived of stuff they didn't even know was a thing until meeting you.

If you are the sort of family who can't leave the house without spending $200 and who think nothing of weekend activities costing a grand for just like an average weekend in May, then you cannot expect middle class people with budgets to befriend you.

You have to choose. What is more important to you? Public school and being part of a down-to-earth community of families, or doing really expensive stuff every weekend?[/quote]

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