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Most of my girl friends who were allowed to have a normal social life in high school weren’t partying and sleeping around like the girls with the strict parents. Good luck![/quote]

Not true, though many girls of strict parents rebel, still most unhinged ones didn't have strict parents.[/quote]

+1 most kids I know with “normal” social lives tend to be not as focused on academics and end up having sex in high school. That’s definitely not the path I want my kids on.[/quote]

They will do it anyways. They will just lie about it and feel like they can’t talk to their parents about anything except schoolwork and grades. They won’t be close to their parents and will only view them them as a source of obligation and guilt. And when they get to college they will do things like leave their phones in their dorm rooms while they go out and party and stay overnight elsewhere.

- 50yo adult Indian American who was born and raised in America by strict immigrant parents with college aged children who report how many Indian American girls behave nowadays.[/quote]

I think quite a few of us must be of the same generation  :)

I was a "good" kid but mainly because I was not only young for my age but a late bloomer too.

I was shocked to discover in later decades that at least 3 of my Indian American friends growing up was assaulted sexually and one was blackmailed into continuing a relationship with their attacker.

They weren't doing anything risky. One was literally assaulted at her first meeting with another 15 year old. What made these kids vulnerable was that the kids they dated knew that these girls must keep things secret from their parents or expect great punishment.

It was awful to hear first hand from one of my friends who is now in her late 40s how she had no one to turn to. It would break my heart if my DD felt like she couldn't turn to me regardless of what happened.

So what are we doing? It's tricky because we have not had this role modeled to us. But though we would prefer she wait to date we haven't taken it off the table. So far (probably because her peer group is not dating at 15 snd 16) she seems happy with the way things are.
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I'm so sorry for your friends and this situation. We need to take a step back and let these women who know the awful "both sides" of this advise the PP. [/quote]

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