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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Go see the newborn and her mother. You were requested.

You said mother of birthday child is laid back - ask if you can see birthday child a day later or following weekend. Don't mention you're picking their sibling over them. [/quote]

I am the laid back one who spend childhood and adulthood going along as mom did backflips to accommodate the difficult one. Mom ended up reinforcing the entitled behavior so much she created a monster who cannot get long with other moms, lost her job, cannot make relationships work and I had to distance myself because she expected me to cater when mom could not. My kids also became very aware the other grandkids got favoritism. Assuming there is no medical emergency and  I assume there is a spouse there...I see no reason why this can't wait a day or 2 so mom can honor her other commitment. Be very gracious about it and share your excitement that she invited you. Make sure when you plan to come works for her. If you are worried about her and her spouse enough and can afford it, offer to hire a night nurse or mother's helper for the interim. [/quote]

If you are having a tantrum or sulking about grandma visiting a newborn the day after the baby is born and missing a young child’s birthday party to do so, you are in no way “laid back.”

This whole family seems filled with terribly behaved people, however, so your behavior would probably just be inline with the rest of them. [/quote]

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