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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]most important thing: only one kid

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- supportive husband with a flex job. But he doesn’t contribute that much to running the household. He’s currently out of town for two weeks for work, and it’s no big deal - I’m used to keeping stuff running. 
- full time remote work
- worked PT 30 hours a week for ages 1-5
- I’m outrageously organized and like to be doing stuff all the time.

Currently make 1.5m. Dh makes another 1m.

No sacrifices by either of us. Extremely successful marriage. Extremely involved with my kid, do bus drop off and pick up every day (MS currently), dinner all three of us together every night. Dh and I have a pre dinner drink together every night. Also exercise daily. Never had a nanny or regular babysitter. Sleep 8 hours a night.

Ultimately, the key is only one kid, remote work and being organized and enjoy doing stuff. Not everyone is wired to be able to do what I do - in the job or in my personal life. 
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Can I ask - when do you sleep? You say you get 8 hours a night, but if you're going bus drop off I assume you don't start working until 7:30 at the earliest? And then you do pickup, so you're there by 3?

I work from 7:30-4 (my kids take the bus and that's when they get on and off) and I make good money but not 7 figures, so I'm a bit in awe of your situation. [/quote]

I work remotely.  AM bus we leave the house at 8:30 back by 8:45.  PM bus I leave at 4:25 and back by 4:35.  I typically work until 7-ish every day. Lunch at my desk.  If work is busy (basically, all of 2024) then i keep working until 7 and then again from maybe 8:30-10:30.  If you're efficient with your time (obviously not at this exact moment - while i'm on dcum lol) then i'm working 10 solid hours every day without even putting in the evening work - so at minimum a 50 hour week.  A couple days a week i have to take DS to an extracurricular but it's no big deal - i lose an hour of work time in the car, but usually work while he's doing his activity.  So maybe just work an hour later those days. But like i said in my PP, i'm outrageously efficient and 'get stuff done' with my time.  I don't waste any time doing non-essential stuff at work. No dumb committees or anything useless. Asleep by around 10:30 or 11 every night, so sleep in until 7.  Easy peasy. Again, the key is one kid and remote work and being hyper efficient and organized.  [/quote]

When your DS was in ES, what did he do all afternoon/evening while you worked until 7?  Aftercare?  [/quote]

Dh also works remotely. Ds is also somewhat solitary and has always liked his alone time. So a combo of maybe I would spend 15 mins with him of quality hanging out, maybe Dh would. By 6, maybe he’d watch an hour of tv. I have also always attempted to keep zoom calls to a minimum after school - both because it gives me a clear schedule to actually get work done and so I can be around for ds. So when he was younger I’d typically sit on the couch with him while I was working and he was doing something like building legos. We’d talk, I’d work, he’d do his own quiet thing. I dunno, it’s hard to remember back but obviously I managed to do okay at the work part, and ds always thought we were around all the time so I think we succeeded on that side too. Again, one kid is just not that hard. [/quote]

It also sounds like he wasn’t in a lot of activities or running around at the playground or doing play dates after school, all of which it seems was personality driven. He needed some time to reset and enjoyed playing by himself. 
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That sounds pretty lonely. Hopefully that is the kid’s personality and not years of being told to be quiet when mom and dad are working.[/quote]

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