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[quote=Anonymous]Reasons for you not to have a 3rd, OP:

*risk of having a kid w/ a disability or autism goes up the older and your DH you get
*you're in the "easy years" right now w 2 elementary school kids. That's the easiest part of parenting for most people. Baby/toddler years and teenager years are the hardest. Life is almost certainly going to get a lot harder once your older 2 are in middle/high school and if you also have a baby/toddler when they're in middle/high school, it will be very hard
*stretched too thin. Your current kids need you and will continue to need you (and may even need you more in the coming years). Right now you and your DH can go 1-1 with each parent going w/ 1 kid. If you have 3 kids you can no longer do this and your kids miss out. I'm from a big family so I know that this is true. Time is finite. Even if you have support and family help or nanny or w/e, nothing subsitutes for parent involvement/attention and kids need that and miss out when they don't get enough of it.
*risk of pregnancy and/or birth and/or postpartum complications goes up the older you get, even if you're generally healthy and your previous pregnancies/births were easy
*people in their mid-late 40s and up get tired, slow down, have health issues way more than people in their mid-late 30s and if you get pregnant right now, you'll be hitting that stage (late 40s) by the time the 3rd baby is the age your current kids are now. Think how much harder that'll be once you're older, tireder, less healthy, etc. 
*if you get pregnant now, your 3rd baby will be born in February 2026, and will graduate high school in 2044 when you will be in your late 50s and probably wanting to retire in a few years but will instead have 4+ years of paying for college/grad school (not saying everyone does that but most on DCUM probably do). [/quote]

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