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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m so tired of this “unrealistic expectations” crap.   I’m a 51 YO woman, ... if I’m going to sleep with you, you better be attractive![/quote]

Yes, [i]both[/i] partners must be attractive.

[quote=Anonymous]IME people who are looking for a relationship ... want to meet quickly in a low stakes situation- coffee or a drink.  I definitely don’t want to plan an evening with someone new.[/quote]

Single women want unlimited selection.  If the men are asking and paying, then why not schedule a bunch of convenient free dates?  The answer is that the men you want are quite different from 90% of the available men.  Some women get a lot of dates and decide to do a quick meet-up to make sure the guy is not a loser.

Now think of the man's perspective.  An attractive 51-year-old man can date an attractive young-looking 41-year-old woman.  It displays bad attitude when the woman schedules a convenient coffee date, or is late, or dressed in gym clothes.  I suggest a drink at the free daily Kennedy Center show.  This gives you the option to upgrade to a second drink or dinner.  It is rude when the woman treats the first meeting as an audition or a free-option instead of a real date.

Nobody ever fell in love over coffee.  After 90+ coffee dates, D.C. dating author Erika Ettin finally met her fiance for an evening drink.  My wife did this too, until I took her for an evening glass of wine.  Be patient, and you might have the privilege of being my next ex-wife.

It sucks to dress up for a bunch of frogs, but you must always be prepared for a prince.  Think of this as an interview, where you dress for the job you want.  If you want the job of lover, then you had better be pleasant, punctual and dressed like a lover.[/quote]

Beautiful women on OLD usually already have several lovers. They don’t WANT unlimited selection of dates. They already have that unlimited selection, it’s their call. Not yours.

Both my lovers have several million on bank accounts, own businesses, homes, take me for weekend trips. Both are fit over 6’. I can’t decide which one to pick dating both already several months. I’m a late 40s woman

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Do they know about each other?

I think this is common, but I also notice the terminology is a little weird.  What you described sounds more or less "poly," but most people think of "poly" as referring to a certain kind of quirky and unattractive group of people, not well dressed people who have good jobs and stay at fancy hotels during their glamorous vacations.[/quote]

I think that was one fiction writer talking to another. [/quote]

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