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[quote=Anonymous]I understand why you would ask that question, but honestly, the major turning point in my adult dating life came when I was crying on the shoulder of one of my best (and most honest!) friends over a loser who had just broken up with me, and she looked at me and said kind of exasperated "I just don't understand why you don't feel worthy of a food man who will be available and love you well.  The guys a woman attracts are like mirrors of how she sees herself/what she thinks she's worth.  Why do you feel you're worth so little?"

That question turned everything on it's head for me and started a journey of questioning and self-discovery in my early 30s that led me to an amazing man in my late 30s.

Crazy thing is, I saw myself (and most people saw me) as a confident, interesting person.  I always thought I really did believe I was worthy of a really good man.

Long story short: my friend was 100% right, I didn't feel worthy and instead attracted guys with whom I'd never be in a stable relationship with, because I didn't think I deserved one.  Even though I really wanted one and thought I'd been looking for one all those years.

Focus on yourself OP.  look at the guys you have dated and ask yourself if it's possible you found them because you deep down don't think you can get or deserve any better?  Then seek the source of your feelings and try to seriously boost up your sense of self worth.

The good guy will follow if you feel good and worthy of him.  [/quote]

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