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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why on earth would you not first see what is available as an accommodation or short term disability or unpaid FMLA?[/quote]

I can only take short term disability two weeks before my due date. I’m used unpaid fmla as part of my maternity leave. I get 6 weeks paid leave and the rest is unpaid. [/quote]

That hasn’t happened yet. Take the leave you need now to heal. Don’t quit becuase you tweaked your back and need to buy things for the baby. He’s right that you’re not thinking clearly. [/quote]

+1. Defer the decision to quit. If you are in pain, you should be able to get a doctor’s note to take leave. Even if you run out of paid, you can take unpaid later right?

Organizing baby items is like… a weekend or two at the most. You do not need to quit in order to do that. Put that rationale aside as it makes your case weaker.[/quote]

I can’t. I have only been at this job for 8 months and I don’t think I can take all that time off.

We have to setup the nursery. Unbox everything. Wash. Sterilize. All the things. [b]My husband isn’t good at that stuff and doesn’t plan to help me do any of it[/b] besides putting together the crib. 
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Yeah you need to nip this attitude in the bud, pronto. Even if you’re the one who’s into organization and want to take the lead on that, he can still do the unboxing, washing, sterilizing. Heck, if you are truly immobile, he can even organize things under your direction.[/quote]

I think I misrepresented my situation. I’m not immobile. I’m in pain but I still work and still maintain our house. It’s really hard some days because I’m in a lot of pain.

My husband will help unbox and put furniture together. He doesn’t care about putting together a postpartum cart or organizing clothes and stuff. He will help if I ask but it’s not his first thought to do any of it. [/quote]

No one needs a “postpartum cart,” OP.[/quote]

Oh. My friend said it was a must. A place to keep postpartum supplies, nursing items, and extra diapers and wipes. [/quote]

I was on bedrest the last five months of my pregnancy. [b]The only things that are a must are diapers and wipes, onesies, blankets, crib/bassinet, and a car seat. [/b]Literally everything else can wait. (I breastfed)

I get that you want everything to be set up before the baby comes, but it is not required. [/quote]

This!! The only other thing I’d add is a breast pump. Everything else is just frills. I bet you have plenty of clothes and blankets from your baby shower, and the rest is a few clicks on Amazon.

Ask your DH to unbox everything and set it all out tonight in front of you. Sit and take inventory and order whatever you still need. Or if your DH is unhelpful, ask a friend to come over and perform that function. It really sounds ridiculous to want to quit your job over something so simple.[/quote]

Op here. We started unboxing things last night. It’s just very overwhelming because we received so many gifts. I have to find places to put things, clear out the nursery closet, and organize it all. We got over 100 gifts so we are swamped with all of it. [/quote] It’s the Thankyou notes that take the most time, not the unwrapping and storing. [/quote]

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