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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Spouse A is right, but if I were Spouse B and you left without me, I wouldn’t uber myself to the restaurant; I would stay home.[/quote]
Yes, I would stay home and possibly even leave Spouse A. They picked their friends over their spouse. [/quote]

Wow, I thought it was strange an earlier pp said this B side was narcissistic behavior, not chill. (I fall on the A side.) But, dang, there is A LOT to unpack with your comment….honoring  commitment shows he’s not committed to you. You definitely prove pp’s point it its a test or gotcha. [/quote]

Yes, you don't leave your spouse behind over a meaningless diner with co-workers. You get there late, you apologized and you work out the issue with your spouse. You don't throw you spouse under the bus in front of co-workers. 
 [/quote]

If there's nothing wrong with being late, why would Spouse A have anything to apologize for? And why would telling them that Spouse B is running late be throwing under the bus? Since there's nothing wrong with being late, right?[/quote]

No, Spouse A feels like being late is very bad and that's why they would apologize to the co-worker and move on.
Spouse thinks it is not a big deal.
The fact that Spouse B makes it such a big deal that they are willing to abandon their spouse is concerning. 
If the co-worker gets mad because you were late and don't want to have diner with you anymore, ok fine, what's the big deal.
But, if your spouse gets mad because you left them behind, your marriage is at risk. Do you really want to risk your marriage because you are trying to please a co-worker? Your marriage should be your priority.[/quote]

But why would Spouse B need to get so mad? Just arrive separately, it's fine, there's no need to be so dramatic about it. If arriving separately bothers you that much, be ready on time. Why is that so hard for you?

This is a great example of how people are late because they want to control others and draw attention to themselves.[/quote]

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