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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At Vanderbilt, we hear that the wealthy and private school  kids definitely stick together socially (particularly the girls). That dynamic may exist at other schools as well.  Can’t comment on Northwestern bc don't know many kids there.[/quote]

my DD is there, public school kid.  Frosh year there are like 2 sororities that brand and market themselves as top tier, so many of the girls are pining for that path - and after a lifetime of achievement, academic / social / ec success and gaining college admissions against a 5% admit rate, feel that “top tier sororities” should be the goal. When in fact those sororities are extremely cliquey and not a fit for most of the public school “unconnected” kids, who usually find their path after rush whether in another sorority or not.  My DC flourished after this experience, and found her peeps through other organizations - ironically with some of the girls in those top sororities.  [/quote]

My private HS girl was turned off by the material /consumption culture of a few of the "top" houses at Vanderbilt. At Anchor Day, it seems like the girls were already "gunning" for those houses. Lots of goyard (Real not fake), van cleef, cartier love bracelets and GG shoes.

There's a mix of an East Coast and southern country club vibe that is hard to shake. You have to decide if you are in and okay with that scene and all that it entails (paying hundreds a month to park your car in a nearby apt and then going with "girls" to Barry's BootCamp, Barre classes, nail appts, hair blowouts and whole foods runs- and once in a "top" house, its a whole different game)....maybe it does get better. Then Broadway bars 2-3 nights a week (that gets old fast). One of the top houses is VERY blonde with one token non-white pledge each fall.

There was something exhausting about the entire prospect for my social private HS girl. It seemed almost too much.
I feel like it works for kids who get this vibe at their summer camps. They would thrive here.[/quote]

I’m the poster u responded to - guess my point was this seems important early on, but most girls grow quickly and realize it isn’t - in fact it’s a really small percentage of vapid girls who create this branding / approach.   And if a kid doesn’t have a strong sense of self and confidence, and can’t handle this “rejection” by the mean girl clique, then likely other issues at play [/quote]

I was about to share a similar thought.

By definition, these houses and types of girls are the minority. Meaning, they choose a subset of new girls each year and exclude everyone else who rushes. Plus there are the girls who don’t bother to rush those houses or who don’t rush at all.

So why all the concern about a small minority of girls on campus who are a poor fit for your DD? What about all the other kids? Vandy is a big school. I’m sure there are many different social groups. It’s not like a kids’ social life dies if they opt out of rushing a few sororities.

how they [/quote]

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