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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you can’t afford a steak you probably can’t afford to live with him.

You should break up. You are not compatible.

I don’t think he has done anything wrong but you are resentful and see him as insulting and there is too much financial disparity and stress.

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I can afford a nice restaurant but not all of the time. He drops 100+ on dinner multiple times a week. I make decent money but he makes a lot more than I do. [/quote]

It sounds like he makes at least 10x than you, correct?

Then WHY on earth would you agree to pay 40%?! You should pay proportional to your incomes, so he'd be paying 90+%.

Extremely stupid to pay 40% of his mortgage. He is using you. Remember, his house is an investment and he will get that money back plus more in 20-30 years when he sells. Is he going to give you your 40% back then? No.

And what happens if you get married? Will he be willing to give you ownership of the house? My guess is probably not.

Plus, if he's like most men, you'll be doing most of the cooking and cleaning. So he gets someone to pay his mortgage and a free maid & personal chef.

When I moved in with BFs in my 20s, I never paid a dime of rent or mortgage. Terrible, terrible idea. [/quote]

Most of us have moved past your very antiquated and traditional view and see women as capable and competent adults who can be equal partners. The idea that women shouldn't contribute financially is no different from saying men shouldn't cotribtue at all domestically.  Your view that women need a man to look after them as they are more like a child and he needs to provide and protect while they cook and clean is not shared by most women anymore. You are thankfully becoming a minority viewpoint. [/quote]

Don't isolate as just income or just domestic chores. Two adults do both.  Assume 50/50 if possible.  But it's not always.

My husband has made a bit more than me forever, and we split costs 60/40.  We were both outside the house about the same amount of time working, so we split chores 50/50 at home.

Now, he's been Riffed by Musk, and is home all day.  He's doing 90% of the chores now. I'm making a much higher income, so I assumed 70% of the expenses. [/quote]

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