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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is the inability to orgasm, with or without a partner, a sure sign of being asexual?[/quote]

I’m stuck on ‘inability.’. how hard have you tried?  I’m a 50YO divorced F.  It took me a long time to learn what makes me O (I was probably 30), and it takes a while with each new partner to show them.  And I’m not particularly inhibited, I’m just wired tricky.  I imagine if I had been raised with sexual inhibitions (say, Catholic, taught that touching myself was bad, etc) I can imagine never having figured it out, but it doesn’t mean I’m unable, it just took work.  have you put in the work?[/quote]

For context, she wasn’t aware of solo until her 20’s. She may have had an O once solo. But isn’t sure. I want her to find pleasure and enjoy the closeness. Getting her to open up to express likes/dislikes is a struggle.

I don’t believe she has ever used a vibrator,  toys, watched or read erotica, etc.  I bought a little toy and a book on basic intimacy. Neither drew interest, as they were our of her  comfort zone.

She is comfortable with the standard position. However, a different routine or exploration has been a no-go since the honeymoon phase.

[/quote]Yeah, you've got yourself a dead fish there.  You have my sympathies.  That's a tough nut to crack  Probably impossible especially if she doesn't recognize it as a problem in your marriage, or it doesn't concern her.  [/quote]

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