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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I was trying to advocate for my kid. She spent the afternoon alone crying while three friends were off having fun;[b] how is that in any way fair?[/b] I am on the fence with how to respond to this girl's mother. She just responded with a "heart" emoji on my text and said, "I'm sorry she felt left out. Three kids is my max for playdate supervision. Hope we can see you soon." Not even an invite or any kind of ownership of the behavior.
Maybe I am being insecure or irrational but seeing your kid in tears, left out, visibly, hurts.[/quote]

There will be other playdates where other people aren't included.  There will be parties that people won't invited to.  There will be colleges that she won't get into.   That's the way life is.  You need to help her reframe her negative thinking into something positive.  Ie. she needs to be able to say "That's a bummer! I can go home and do X, though, and that will be fun, and I can play with Larla on another day."

Not entirely sure how you let her wallow in her room for an entire afternoon. You should have been helping her find alternative activities besides wallowing, and then helped her plan another playdate later.[/quote]

When this happens to my daughter, I remind her that she plans and is invited to activities and parties that don’t include everyone, and that’s okay - so it’s okay for other kids to do the same. And it’s fine to be a little sad she was left out, but not to take it personally and have it ruin her whole day.

If it’s a situation that happens repeatedly with the same friend, then I suggest she see who DOES want to hang out with her and get to know those people.

I’m sure there aren’t only four girls in OP’s DD’s class….[/quote]

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