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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I was trying to advocate for my kid. She spent the afternoon alone crying while three friends were off having fun; how is that in any way fair? I am on the fence with how to respond to this girl's mother. She just responded with a "heart" emoji on my text and said, "I'm sorry she felt left out. Three kids is my max for playdate supervision. Hope we can see you soon." Not even an invite or any kind of ownership of the behavior.
Maybe I am being insecure or irrational but seeing your kid in tears, left out, visibly, hurts.[/quote]

This person is not your friend OP.

First the silly deflection and changing the topic nonsense with DD.

Now, the "[b]I'm sorry she felt left out.[/b]" which is putting it all on your daughter.    No ownership at all.

A nicer person, a friend, would have said,

"I am sorry she was sad and that we could not include her today.  Three kids is my max for playdate supervision. Hope we can plan something soon."

FWIW it's worth, I have a boy.   The local playground is the boys' gathering spot, thank goodness![/quote]
How is “I’m sorry she felt left out,” any meaner than “I’m sorry she was sad”? Sadness is a feeling; in fact, it is the very emotion OP’s dd had because she was not included. You think your phrasing is kinder but that’s all in your head. The other mom’s message and yours are the same, using slightly different words. Saying “she was sad” is putting this on the child exactly the same as saying “she felt left out.”[/quote]

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