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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People should be less judgmental in general but fwiw, I’m a single mom to a child with a disability and I wouldn’t leave her for a week and a half to go on vacation. You’re your child’s whole world, OP. That’s a really long time. I’ve never left her overnight for vacation. The only times I’ve left her overnight have been out of necessity (medical reasons both times).[/quote]

Did you miss the part where OP wasnt asking if she should go on this trip?[/quote]

She wasn’t asking if she should go on the trip, but she was expressing shock and dismay that people were judging her for doing it. And she thinks the judgement is because she’s a single mom. I’m saying I’m also a single mom, and I don’t judge her, but I wouldn’t take the trip. She seems to be assuming that it’s obviously ok to take the trip because she needs a break, and anyone who thinks otherwise is a judgmental a-hole. I don’t think it’s that clear-cut.[/quote]

Yes, she is expressing dismay that people like her coworker and you offer their shitty, unsoliceted opinion. She didn't ask her coworker or you what you thought about her plans. Yet her coworker decided she needed to make her opinion known in the rudest possible way. Also, if you are even a single mom, you should honestly know better than to judge other moms when they need a break. Do better.[/quote]

I think you’re probably OP ghost writing, so I will respond as though that’s the case — people judge. We all judge. Some judgments are silly or shallow, like when a mom judges a child for not wearing designer clothes. And then we can judge that mom for being shallow! Judgments are part of life becuase they show us what our morals and beliefs are. If you’re uncomfortable being judged for this choice, maybe spend some time thinking about why it makes you feel so angry and defensive. If you truly thought it was a ridiculous judgement, would it just roll off your back? Usually the things that upset us most upset us becuase we think there’s a kernel of truth there. Your child will be fine after this week and a half vacation, but if there are other ways you fear that you’re putting your needs first, and THAT’s why this random comment from a coworker hurt so much, now would be a great time to drop the defenses and think about that some.[/quote]

I'm definitely not OP so your judgement means nothing to me. Perhaps spend some time examining why you feel the need to come on this site and trash moms and women who are doing all of the heavy lifting. Why do you feel the need to judge a single mom when she needs a much needed break? This has zero impact on you. But somehow you are so unhappy with yourself that you feel the need to be nasty to perfect strangers just trying to survive. Why are you so deeply unhappy with yourself? I feel sad for you. [/quote]

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