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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Unfortunately, OP, you really need to shower and change clothes daily. I am really not trying to be mean, but you probably smell after a week of no showering. And showering regularly will help to some degree how you feel.

I know you say you're not depressed, but this is a huge red flag for depression.[/quote]

Completely agree and I empathize. You should be showering more regularly and not wearing unclean pajamas on a daily basis. Do you have any family who can help? Can you hire part time help? The first few months are tough. Best of luck to you.

-mother of 4 [/quote]

I know I need to get better. I need to do laundry more so I have more clothes to wear. I don’t so I just wear the dirty ones until my husband does laundry or I muster up the strength to do it.

We don’t have help. I’ve reached out to some caregivers but most regular ones want more hours than I’m willing to give. A doula is way too expensive for us. We don’t have a lot of extra funds to afford that kind of care. [/quote]

You need help! Your husbands request for you to shower isn’t unreasonable. 
Get a 12-14 yr old Mothers helper a couple times a week for a few hours. They are inexpensive.  Ask neighbors or a Facebook moms group to fund one. 
The teen can hold your baby and/or feed her while you shower, throw in laundry, take a nap. 
If breastfeeding, start pumping, so someone else can feed the baby. Learn how to run all the bottle and pump parts through the dishwasher daily
A daily shower (with a stool to sit on) will help you feel better and be more yourself. 
Also, ask your Mom, Aunt, sister, friend, to come stay with you for a week to help. 
You will start to feel better in a month or so, but you need help NOW[/quote]

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