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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can't you just say that you are PP, WFH and are overwhelmed. It won't be forever. So some grace would be appreciated.

Or, you can just tell him to F off. [/quote]

We are 1 month in and I’m not back to work.

My husband has always had some issues with hygiene. He's super hygiene - showers 2-3 times a day. I’ve always been clean but the basics like showering and changing my clothes has fallen to the bottom of my list. I admit that I don’t shower much these days or change my clothes unless I do. I try to shower frequently but it’s hard and I don’t have the energy for it most days. I will throw pajamas on each time. My husband wants me to shower daily and at least get dressed in real clothes. [/quote]

I’m going to go the opposite way of most of the posters here and suggest that your husband (whom you selected and loved enough to marry and have chosen to have a child with) is not a self-centered heartless monster who is out to get you. Rather, he is seeing signs that you are struggling and throwing in the towel. This person who doesn’t shower or bother to change clothes is not someone he recognizes, and he’s freaked out by it. Maybe he’s asking because he needs to find out if it’s intentional or if you are in need of post-partum counseling. If he asks “do you think you can at least try to shower and change into real clothes once a day?” and you respond that you simply can’t, maybe he’ll see that you need help. (Because this is not only something you should be able to do 30-days post-partum, but it will make you feel more human and less depressed if you do.)

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