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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's hardest when it's a close neighbor.  Sometimes, my kid runs out the door to one friend's house before I can stop them.  I am constantly inviting their kid over, but my kid is at their house more than they are at mine because my kid is more aggressive about the friendship.  I would have no problem if their mom sent my kid home if they were busy.  [/quote]

[b]If my kid ran out the door without asking my permission they wouldn’t stay at the house.  I would go get them and bring them home.[/b]

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This. My kids are young though, five and eight. I have gone over to a house where they were playing and dragged them home for leaving without permission. I expect elementary children to tell me where they are going.

I have also told the other parent to always tell me if my children are coming over too much. I actually love when my children knock on a neighbor’s door and are told no. Hearing no is a life skill I want them to develop. I just don’t want it to be a burden on the neighbors and have articulated that to the neighbors.

A few things feel funny to me in OP’s situation. I’ve told my children many times that they cannot invite themselves *in*. They are to invite the other children *out* to play or over to our house. I also don’t do errands while my children are running around our cul-de-sac or over at a nearby house. That feels like I’m taking advantage of childcare.  The OP needs to chat with the parent of the two children. OP could ask for reciprocity, ask to limit the kids to x# of days per week, limit the kids to certain times, or stop playdates for a period of time. We don’t have proof the other family is taking advantage of OP, but I can see why she would be annoyed.[/quote]

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