Reply to Should I divorce my high functioning alcoholic husband?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Should I divorce my high functioning alcoholic husband?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let's take is he alcoholic off the table for a moment.

He gets drunk every night, is not a full partner in marriage because he is drunk a significant part of his home time.  He either cannot, or doesn't want to, or pretends he doesn't want to because he cannot stop getting drunk. Or let's not quibble drunk. Lets say would blow over the legal limit if breathalyzed.

How does playing sports and coaching make him a great dad?  Great dads don't blow over the legal limit every day. He does some fun things with them but it's not clear how long he can do that.

[/quote]

Except it sounds like none of this is actually the case. He is doing, it sounds like, more than his fair share of the parenting and housework, and is never drunk around the kids. Only at night after they go to bed. It also sounds like OP is mostly upset about arguments they have after she accuses him of being a drunk. Depending on the way she is approaching that, it could set off a lot of people, especially as it sounds like there is a fair amount of more problematic drinking in their social circle. Is there other gaslighting? Or is it only around being drunk at night? It sounds like a sober, non accusatory conversation aimed at a compromise could do a lot here. Maybe schedule that? Jumping to divorce sounds premature from what has been posted.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics