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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Stop with the "lawyer up" advice. That is the worst advice.

If your husband wants a divorce, you try to do it amicably if you have kids. You also don't fight. No reason to. 50/50 of marital assets, 50/50 custody and call it a day.

Lawyering up takes your money, makes it hostile and chances are, you still are getting 50/50 no matter what. Don't lawyer up to pay to get an agreement you can do yourself.

Once someone says they want a divorce, they have already decided (and usually they have been thinking about it for years).

Get an agreement and that is it. Go to a mediator who is also an attorney to draft it. Have your own lawyer review it. You can pay hourly for that.

DO NOT get friends and family involved. That makes it worse.

DO NOT tell kids until you have a PLAN of how they will live after a divorce and a schedule. [/quote] STOP with your BS a$$vice about this. When the divorce is a unilateral decision by one spouse you GET A LAWYER. Why are you always so concerned with other people's money? Maybe OP can afford an excellent lawyer. Not your concern. You don't seem to get this.[/quote]
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The husband has had time to plan and plot. Why should OP be a sitting duck?[/quote]

Consult with a lawyer. No need to “lawyer up”and pay a 10k retainer to litigate when you can come to an agreement from much less and use your own lawyer to review it for an hourly rate. Paying tons lawyers to do things you can do yourself is stupid.

-divorced a lawyer  [/quote] Hilarious that you have designated yourself the Decider-in-chief of who should retain a lawyer. Who cares that you "divorced a lawyer". Your advice, as per usual, is terrible. You constantly make these snap judgments based on zero information. Sit down already.[/quote]

No one’s making snap judgments with zero information. [b]Her husband asked for a divorce that means he’s a reasonable and can talk about it[/b] (he didn’t go and send her a letter from his attorney ), and she should be able to do the same (talk about it). Advising people to keep their own money when they’re going to get get the same if they litigate is not terrible advice. I have seen tons of divorces where people spend tens of thousands of dollars to get absolutely nowhere make it a terrible situation and then they end up with an agreement that would’ve been exactly the same if they had decided themselves with mediation in accordance to the norm of the law. The reality is most people don’t have that much money to fight over and they don’t understand that their case is not unique and they also have this idea that something is fair and courts actually care about the cause of the divorce when nobody does, it is about money and the kids and splitting it evenly—and that is it. [/quote] Are you high? Asking for a divorce in person doesn't mean even a little that they're reasonable or willing to be reasonable. Again, take a seat. [/quote]

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