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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Stop with the "lawyer up" advice. That is the worst advice.

If your husband wants a divorce, you try to do it amicably if you have kids. You also don't fight. No reason to. 50/50 of marital assets, 50/50 custody and call it a day.

Lawyering up takes your money, makes it hostile and chances are, you still are getting 50/50 no matter what. Don't lawyer up to pay to get an agreement you can do yourself.

Once someone says they want a divorce, they have already decided (and usually they have been thinking about it for years).

Get an agreement and that is it. Go to a mediator who is also an attorney to draft it. Have your own lawyer review it. You can pay hourly for that.

DO NOT get friends and family involved. That makes it worse.

DO NOT tell kids until you have a PLAN of how they will live after a divorce and a schedule. [/quote] STOP with your BS a$$vice about this. When the divorce is a unilateral decision by one spouse you GET A LAWYER. Why are you always so concerned with other people's money? Maybe OP can afford an excellent lawyer. Not your concern. You don't seem to get this.[/quote]
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The husband has had time to plan and plot. Why should OP be a sitting duck?[/quote]

Consult with a lawyer. No need to “lawyer up”and pay a 10k retainer to litigate when you can come to an agreement from much less and use your own lawyer to review it for an hourly rate. Paying tons lawyers to do things you can do yourself is stupid.

-divorced a lawyer  [/quote]

I’m also a lawyer and trying to come to an agreement without my own lawyer ended up wasting time and money. That only works if the ex is rational and wants to come to an agreement. Usually that is not the case. I regret trying to go the “collaborative” route. You can avoid litigation sure, but sometimes things just won’t move unless you have lawyers actively involved. [/quote]

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