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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The way you describe everything gives strong “surrendered wife” vibes. I wouldn’t say anything to you but I would be internally rolling my eyes. [/quote]

Many men get tired of these wives and cheat or divorce. Not all. But definitely a non-zero number.

Or, they see the wives of other men. And those wives don’t let themselves go and have a good career. As these men progress professionally, they outgrow their tradwives. Again, not all.

But I’ve seen it several times.[/quote]

This. Some men really love the ego-fluffing and convenience of having this kind of wife. They get to be told they're amazing and they don't have to do even close to 50% of the parenting or chores. But of course, that comes with tradeoffs-- income, prestige, and having someone they think is more interesting (not saying you can't be interesting as a SAHM, just that some men feel that way). Sometimes as men grow older and mature, being told they're amazing rings hollow because they know they're pretty average, and it makes them lose a respect for their wife if they think she truly believes it. As men move up in their career, they meet women with impressive careers and men whose wives have impressive careers and earnings at the same time as raising children, and it makes them wonder why they don't have that in their marriage. And the loss of a wife's good income starts to bother them more as they come to understand how it affects their lifetime trajectory.

Of course I've seen it go the other way too, sometimes men think they want the two-career feel but actually prefer the ego boost and convenience of a more old-fashioned division of labor. It just depends what kind of guy he is and what their circumstances are.

Anyway, OP, eyes wide open.[/quote]

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