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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am not usually a very strict parent, but if my 13 year old said that to me I would make them submit to a week where I: do not drive them anywhere, including their favorite sports and classes, make them take the school bus, make them make their own meals, stop cleaning the house or doing the dishes, and stop doing laundry. If they have no idea what adulting looks like, we need to show them.[/quote]

The thing is that all this gets done if both parents work. It’s not like their friends who have working parents don’t play sports, wear clean clothes or have dinner. Talk to your child about the pros and cons of staying home and why it works for you and DH and it may or may not work for then if they have families.[/quote]
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They may have "clean" clothes and eat dinner, but not necessarily home cooked meals, or eat dinner together.

And those parents are probably way more stressed out,  which translates into more stress at home.  And/or they outsource a lot of stuff, including their meals.

-signed a wfh mom[/quote]

This is what people say to justify their own decisions and put down people who made different decisions.

Anyway a household with teens should always have clean clothes (because the teens should be doing their own laundry, no excuses) and a home cooked dinner. ANY household with teens is not eating diner together every night because those teens have activities in the evening.[/quote]

I eat dinner with my teen every night. He might have one Friday night activity every six weeks or so at 7pm. We just eat dinner earlier that night. [/quote]

Some people have more than one kid, and their daily activities don’t line up perfectly.  We eat dinner with at least one of our kids/one parent every night, but the line-up changes depending on the day.[/quote]

I have another teen in college. We all are at home every night except occasionally during the summer when they were sometimes offered overtime at work. I honestly can’t think of any activity that is more important than us spending quality time with each other. I think it’s odd how so many parents don’t seem to want to be with their kids. They are so over scheduled and I don’t get it. [/quote]

Well, that’s a *you* problem, ma’am.  We personally find our childrens’ athletic, academic, musical, and social activities and enrichment to be extremely important.  It’s also normal and healthy for teens to pull away from constant quality time with their parents.  I honestly can’t imagine my teens coming home for dinner every night when they’re in college; surely you must realize that is highly unusual?[/quote]

He lives at home. Not everyone has DCUM money. 30-45 minutes per day to have a meal together is not a lot of time. I value it. It’s sad that others don’t. [/quote]

You’re right, of course.  You’re the only mother who values time with her children.  We all bow to your superior mothering skills and your selfless love  :roll: [/quote]

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